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Sometimes, life has a way of throwing curveballs when we're least prepared.
But here's the real deal - we are never, ever alone.
That's the promise of the gospel.
Since childhood, Psalm 23 has held a special place in my heart. Yet, during the challenging moments of my adult life, it transformed into my anchor, the gentle solace that guided me through my darkest hours. Psalm 23 makes me feel seen, understood and cradled, reminding me that God was and is there with me in the "green pastures" and "leading me beside still waters", as well as by my side "in the valley of the shadow of death." And after each one of us have experienced and walked through a pandemic, we understand the value of emotional and spiritual resilience in the face of life's uncertainties.
In 2020, there hasn't been another universally shared experience in my lifetime, apart from the pandemic, where every individual across the globe can relate to and understand each other. We all experienced this life-altering event, together.
For 2021, life pretty much shook me to my core. And being in the public eye, it was even more tragic because it wasn't just me that was shaken.
In 2022, this season was about stripping away the roles I've always identified with: wife, mom, sister, teacher, co-founder, friend, coworker, coach. The upheaval of 2021 forced me into a quiet corner, a space where I could dig deep, peel back the layers and heal from the hurts of my marriage. As a wife and a mother, and having walked hand in hand with so many over the years, we're often the sponges, absorbing and soaking up the discord, the untruths, indifference and the ongoing harmful behaviors until we reach a point where we just can't bear it any longer. We finally declare, I have to preserve my overall health and wellness from a destructive relationship, and "enough is truly enough". Despite wrestling and wishing for a different outcome, I had to accept that saving my marriage wasn't something I could do alone. Addiction is a storm that tears lives apart. Professionally, I have seen hundreds of clients and their spouses sitting in my office, and unfortunately, addiction wins, unless there are dire measures in place for an addict. If this is your story, I see you, and you are not alone on this journey.
For 2023, my focus as a mother of four fantastic college graduates is to dive deep into the world of relationships, enneagrams, and to find emotional and mental wellness solutions for our youth. While my love for the outdoors keeps me grounded, there's an ever-growing urge to share my story through words. I'm stepping into the unknown with faith, eager to see where this journey takes me. I remain curious and eager to discover the story God is unfolding, and hope you'll walk with me as we navigate life's beautiful complexities together.
With Love,
Melody
August 21, 2023
A Heartfelt Journey:
From Trauma & Crisis to
Healthy Relationships &
Genuine Connection
Fourteen years might seem like an eternity for some, but for me, it was a chapter - profound, transformative, and deeply personal. It was a time when I immersed myself in the turbulent waters of human relationships, betrayal, trauma, infidelity, addiction and abuse, and extending a hand to the broken fragments of families and couples on the brink. As I waded through this emotional maelstrom, certain patterns became starkly evident. Clear signals emerged, pointing to the heartrending breakdowns I was all too familiar with.
But a realization began to take root: I wasn’t meant to be merely a trauma-informed recovery coach or a crisis manager. There had to be more. I sought to understand the undercurrents that pulled individuals into these stormy waters. If I could fathom that, perhaps I could intercept these patterns before they solidified.
A vision started crystallizing in my mind's eye. Why wait for a rupture when we could reinforce the foundations? I saw the potential of equipping the younger generation with the robust tools they needed for emotional and relational reslience. It marked a significant shift - from repairing wounded hearts to fortifying them, from steering through emotional tempests to ensuring serene journeys from the onset.
This became my fervent mission. This wasn’t a fleeting aspiration. As I crossed the threshold into the halftime of my life, I was invigorated with passion. This new purpose was a continuation, an extension, yet also an evolution - one that was aimed at leaving an indelible mark, creating a legacy that echoed through future families and generations.
Determined to rewrite the prevailing narrative, and move upstream from the crisis, I set my sights on prevention. No more would I be a silent spectator, holding space and confidentiality to tales of heartbreak; I aspired to weave stories of empathy, resilience, and thriving relationships. In my heart, I've always wanted to guide our youth, helping them navigate around emotional hurdles, so they're less likely to face those crushing breakdowns.
So, began an exhilarating chapter. It wasn't just about mending; it was about empowerment. Hearing firsthand from students in the relationship & enneagram cadre class I led, I felt drawn to help equip these young minds. My focus was to empower the younger generation with tools and resources, to nurture their emotional intelligence, and to instill in them the art of valuing relationships. A childhood story that has consistently resonated with me throughout my life, is that of the boy with the five loaves and two fishes. This tale of a young boy with humble offerings, when placed in the hands of the divine, Jesus then feeds the five thousand.
This past year, I often felt like I was treading a path parallel to that boy's. Venturing into entrepreneurship and confronting the challenges of the technological age, I frequently questioned whether my abilities were sufficient for the monumental journey ahead. Through the welcoming halls of my alma mater, the support of professors and students, and the camaraderie of fellow visionaries reignited my passion, I found solace and inspiration in the story of the boy and his heartfelt gift.
After countless nights, revisions, and relentless perseverance, my endeavor bore fruit. Much like the boy with his modest offering, I also watched a miracle unfold. "Number" was not just an app, but a testament to our journey and the transformative power of genuine human connection. As I wait for the approval from the App Store, my heart swells with gratitude.
To every soul that has been part of this adventure and difficult journey, from my alma mater, my friends, my amazing team, my mentor, coach, my family and most importantly God, I extend a sincere "Thank you!"
To the next generation who inspired me, "Number" is our beacon of hope in this age of technology. To all who seek genuine relationships and authentic connection, this gift is to you.
July 31, 2023
A treasure map in getting "out of the box" and "unstuck" through the Enneagram...
Imagine stumbling upon a treasure map, not leading to gold or jewels, but something infinitely more valuable: the deepest, most authentic version of you. That's what the Enneagram is. As an enthusiast who wants everyone to thrive, and to create tools to get them there, my relationship with it has deepened into something truly enriching these past five years. It's not just a personality test, like Myers Briggs or DISC, it's a key that unlocks the door to understanding not just what we do, but why we do what we do. Over the past five years, this tool has deepened my understanding of both myself and the numerous couples I have worked with for almost two decades—those recovering from betrayal, trauma, and abuse. It goes beyond the what and delves into the why, making sense of our motivations and behaviors.
Navigating life, pandemics, parenting, and my own personal trials—made the Enneagram's value even more apparent. It provided a language to articulate the turmoil of emotions and behaviors during my lowest points, showing that such patterns aren't random. Through the Enneagram, I began to see the shared threads that bind our human experience, understanding that there's learning even in the shadows and that compassion is key for healing and growth.
Picture the Enneagram as more than just a map. It's an evolving guide, a testament to our emotional intelligence. It not only reveals who we are but illuminates who we can become. For those embarking on their own journeys of self-discovery, the Enneagram can be an enlightening companion. It doesn't just spotlight our behaviors; it outlines the path to growth and healing, since embracing challenges is part of the process.
So, step into the journey with the Enneagram, brave friends. Let it guide you, let it transform you, let it reveal the truth of your authentic self. As we navigate this together, embracing our growth and healing, let's remember to be gentle with ourselves and others. Because, in the end, it's all about love and our shared humanity, the love we have for ourselves and the love we share with the world.
SPEAKING ENGAGEMENTS
Melody Lovvorn
Embracing Your Divine Design
Flint Baptist Church
9-13 July 2023
Hueytown Arts & Author Expo
Pleasant Ridge Baptist Church
18 August 2023
Fierce Connection Conference
Vestavia Conference Center
15-16 September 2023
Enneagram Leadership Workshop:
9 Types of Leaders in a Team
JBL Leadership Institute
12 October 2023
Enneagram Leadership Workshop:
9 Types of Leaders in a Team
Heals & Handshakes
19 October 2023
Online Enneagram Leadership Workshop:
9 Types of Leaders in a Team
Togetherness Project
25 October 2023
Betrayal Healing Conference
22-26 January 2024
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email Leslie Wiles: leslie@togethernessproject.com
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